Somebody you don’t even know just dumped all over your parade. They don’t know you, but don’t like something you did. Their commentary was demeaning and condescending, never once taking into consideration that you may be innocent of any intent to create a problem. Sound familiar?
The very first instinct is to strike back! Who do they think they are? What gives them the right to lambast me when they have no idea what’s going on? Then, to make matters worse they were addressing not just you, but several you’s. This is even worse because now you’re not so special, but have been lumped together with others who may be just like you.
So who or what made this person the “guardian” of anything, with the right to take who knows how many to task? It would be a different matter altogether if the so called offense had simply been brought to our attention, which it was by the only one with that right.
They did exactly that with grace, no inflammatory content, no intent to do anything other than address the issue, and not the contributors to the problem. It was taken in good stead, and done in a humanitarian fashion.
Unlike the other who really had no right to go off on anyone! While no names were mentioned, it was the “tone’ of the message. No compassion, no mercy, no kindness, just a straight out “word lashing.”
So you are still at that point of retaliation. To get back at the one who has attempted to cause injury. Then it hits you. As you consider the issue, the thought comes back to you again, who is this person to criticize anyone?
At the same moment you remember no one can really insult, verbally hurt, make mad or happy, you or anyone else unless…you let them. Oh but doesn’t that grind? It’s up to you as to how you’re going to act. Revenge is NEVER sweet, as it has a tendency to bite back.
So what’s left to do? Consider that what the other individual thinks is their problem. They have to deal with it. How could someone you don’t even know be in a position to come close to creating a verbal insult. There was a time you read that insulting someone else in any form, is insulting yourself as well. Now there’s one to think about.
How you feel, what you think, do, say, are all you. The right to any of those things is only deniable in an unjust society. Perfection does not exist, meaning ALL make mistakes both big and small. The world doesn’t stop because of it.
Slowly wisdom begins to take over, and you start to realize that other individual likely has some issues or even a really low self esteem. These are signals this other individual is looking for a way to boost that lack of esteem by attacking others, attempting to lower their value by criticism or demeaning them in some fashion.
At that point “ego” jumps in and tells them how superior they are, massaging that frail personal worth into believing it’s true. You see it everyday.
So the bottom line? What someone else thinks of you directly or indirectly is none of your business. It’s their problem. You know who you are and your intentions at the moment in question. However, there was some learning that took place, and that’s always a good thing.
So the answer to the question, did rebuke reveal anothers narrow-mindedness or an eyeopener for you, would have to be both. Both were revealed.